Dealing with late-life virginity can be a challenging and emotional experience, but it’s important to approach it with patience and self-compassion. Whether it’s addressing underlying issues with a therapist, considering celibacy, or slowly navigating the world of dating, there are ways to move forward at your own pace. In this article, we explore practical steps, from seeking professional help to embracing new social strategies, to help you work through any concerns and find peace with your sexual journey.
Seek therapy: If you don’t do anything else, prioritize therapy. It’s important to address any personal issues with the help of a professional. Therapy can’t be replaced by online forums, and if your insurance covers it, take advantage of that. If not, explore other options to get the support you deserve. Additionally, self-help books can be beneficial, but the real work comes from committing to personal growth.
Consider a no-strings approach: If you’re feeling pressured to have sex...
The Passing of Time, Changing Generations, and Evolving Vocabulary: How to Understand Gen Z Without a Dictionary (And Avoid Looking Like a Boomer)
What is Gen Z?
Let’s start from the beginning—what exactly is Gen Z? Generation Z (Gen Z), also known as iGen or Zoomers, refers to the generation of people born roughly between the mid-1990s and the early 2010s. This generation is the first to grow up fully immersed in technology, the internet, and social media from a very young age.
Have you ever been walking down the street and overheard a conversation between friends from Gen Z? It happened to me once, and I must admit, I looked around to make sure I was still on Piraeus Street and not in Brooklyn. “We were fine,” said the girl next to me at the traffic light, speaking with great intensity to her conversation partner, “it was probably just a simple love bombing.” Love bombing, ghosting, orbiting, and who knows how many more terms we’ve missed.
There are so many foreign words now to describe...
“Popping her cherry” “Swiping my V-card” “Going all the way”
All of these phrases — and countless more — connote one single, sexual act: intercourse. Given its reproductive implications, our society has framed sexual intercourse over the centuries as the most intimate of all sexual acts, the one that should be “saved” for just the right partner. But contrary to conventional wisdom, I have found that oral sex is a far more intimate experience, one that requires even more trust and passion than intercourse. After all, putting someone else’s genitalia in your mouth is a lot more up-close-and-personal than face-to-face intercourse. But my view is the unpopular one. Why?
It has to do with something I call “The Blowjob Fallacy” (no pun intended). Namely, heterosexual women wait longer to let a guy go down on them than they do to have intercourse, bit offer up a BJ on a first date.
In her 2016 book “Girls & Sex,” Peggy Orenstein writes, “When I would talk to girls, for instance, about oral sex...
Voted as an absolute favourite among the sexually active, doggy style has been wildly popular as the best position to hit the spot…the G-spot, that is! But for those who aren’t convinced, here are four techniques that’ll enhance your from-behind experience so that you can receive maximum pleasure every time.
The Lazy Doggy Style According to sex expert, Dr. Pam Spurr, ditching the classic doggy style could actually prove more beneficial when it comes to hot doggy style sex. She recommends that the woman rests her weight on her elbows as her partner thrusts her from behind, calling this position “The Lazy Doggy Style.”
In this way, her pelvis is raised and tilted, making it a perfect position to hit the G-spot. Additionally, to enhance the experience, he should try circular movements with his hips to make sure that the surrounding areas are stimulated too.
Clitoral Stimulation, Simultaneously It’s true that many women find it difficult to orgasm via penetration, and that they respond positively...
Why include role-playing in your sexual life? One answer might be simply that it’s a kink or a long-standing fantasy of yours, your partner’s, or both of you. Alternatively, you might just be looking for ways to make sex more interesting and break out of the usual routine. In any case, you don’t lose anything by giving it a try. The team at MegaSexShop.com is here to help by giving you some ideas for roles you can play with your partner.
Boss and Employee Role-playing often centers around power dynamics, as well as exploring situations that, in real life, are considered problematic or taboo. To really get into the roles, we suggest moving from the bedroom to a space that resembles an office.
Employer and Maid Sticking with the power-play theme, here you can add a maid or butler costume, and the role-playing can take place anywhere in your home.
Masseur and Client Massage, especially with oils, can be erotic on its own. So, include it in your role-playing, with one person playing...
Exploring BDSM in the bedroom can add excitement and deepen intimacy. Whether you’re curious about bondage, spanking, or trying out dominance and submission roles, BDSM allows you to play with various sensations and fantasies. Although it has become more mainstream in recent years, BDSM has long been a way for people to explore their desires and heighten pleasure.
What Does BDSM Mean? BDSM stands for:
Bondage: This involves using physical restraints like handcuffs or rope. Discipline/Dominance: Discipline can include activities like behavior training or setting rules, with rewards or punishments. Dominance involves consensually assuming control in a power dynamic. Submission/Sadism: Submission involves willingly surrendering control, often involving elements like obedience or feeling vulnerable. Sadism includes giving controlled emotional or physical pain for mutual enjoyment. Masochism: Masochists enjoy receiving pain, exploring the balance of pleasure and discomfort in erotic ways. Starting...
It’s widely known that STDs can be transmitted through oral sex and that using protection like condoms or dental dams can help prevent infections. However, there’s more to consider, and staying informed is crucial.
Not All STDs Have the Same Risks
Some STDs, or STIs (Sexually Transmitted Infections), have higher transmission rates through unprotected oral sex.
For instance:
Gonorrhea: Increasingly common among teens and challenging to treat.
Genital Herpes: The HSV-1 virus causes common cold sores, while HSV-2 is responsible for genital herpes. These viruses are genetically close, making cross-transmission possible.
Syphilis: Highly contagious even in later stages and not always visible. Condoms may not fully prevent transmission if sores are outside the protected area.
Other infections, like chlamydia, HIV, hepatitis (A, B, and C), genital warts, and pubic lice (crabs), have a lower risk of transmission but can still spread.
Orgasms vary widely. Some are quick and subtle, while others are intense and powerful. Several factors can influence how an orgasm feels, including the amount of arousal, mental engagement, and type of stimulation. Common physical indicators during orgasm might include:
Muscle contractions: Rhythmic pulsing in the pelvic floor, along with muscle tightening or arching movements.
Warm sensations: A “sex flush,” a blushing warmth over the chest or face.
Post-orgasm afterglow: Feelings of relaxation, calm, or even invigoration.
1. Clitoral Orgasm
The clitoris is often regarded as the epicenter of pleasure due to its high concentration of nerve endings. Located externally at the top of the vulva, this small yet powerful organ extends internally with legs that hug the vaginal canal. Direct clitoral stimulation, whether with fingers, a partner’s mouth, or toys, can lead to a clitoral orgasm. Here’s how to enhance clitoral pleasure:
Even in 2024, many of us, regardless of age or gender, still attach significance to the number of sexual partners we've had. But does keeping track or worrying about this number only amplify underlying insecurities? Olivia Petter explores this question.
Psychologist Louise Goddard-Crawley notes, "The feeling of shame associated with sleeping with too many people often stems from outdated societal norms, cultural values, and gender stereotypes." These feelings are tied to old perceptions about sex, often shaped by these outdated norms (Getty).
Numbers in Life
We often let numbers define our lives: the number of bedrooms in our home, how many attempts it took to pass a driving test, how many marriages we've had, and so on. One number, however, seems to carry more weight than the rest: the number of people we've slept with. While some may consider it juvenile to track this figure (though plenty of adults keep a list on their phones), most people are familiar with their "number." This is...
Testosterone is an important hormone for everyone. Although often associated with men's libido, testosterone is present in all genders from birth. In women, it plays a role in sexual desire, energy, and physical strength. In men, it triggers sexual development and maintains their health throughout life.
What Does Testosterone Do for Your Body?
Testosterone levels peak in early adulthood but continue to play a significant role in:
Muscle and bone mass
Fat storage
Red blood cell production
Sexual and physical health
Testosterone levels begin to naturally decline with age. Sharp drops or a halt in production can lead to symptoms of low testosterone (low T).
Symptoms of Low Testosterone
A sudden reduction in testosterone levels can lead to:
