For individuals with penises, the prostate is often a source of intense pleasure. However, it took me years to discover the potential for heightened arousal in this area. Social stigma and misconceptions have prevented many from fully experiencing the satisfaction prostate play can offer when done mindfully and in tune with the body. Once you learn how to stay relaxed—especially in that sensitive area—you can unlock a world of pleasure through toys, massagers, and more intense orgasms.
What is the Prostate and Why is it Important?
Often referred to as the male G-spot, the prostate is a small, walnut-sized gland situated just below the bladder and in front of the rectum. It encircles part of the urethra and plays an essential role in the male reproductive system by producing seminal fluid, which nourishes and protects sperm during ejaculation. During orgasm, the prostate contracts to help expel semen, making it crucial for both reproduction and sexual sensation.
One of the most frequently asked questions we receive from heterosexual women is, “How can I orgasm during sex with my partner?” Some even want to know how to experience simultaneous orgasms during penetration, every single time. If this is you, unfortunately, you're out of luck—if we knew the answer, we’d probably be richer than Oprah! Sex is complex, and countless factors influence individuals and sexual experiences, so no one can promise consistency. However, here are 10 things we do know that can help increase your chances of orgasmic success with a partner…
Don’t View Sex as Just Intercourse If you’ve been defining “sex” purely as penile penetration, you’ve made a mistake. You may have tried many different intercourse positions, but it’s not always the position that will make the difference—it might be oral sex, manual stimulation, or a combination of both. There’s no shame in achieving orgasm through means other than intercourse. In fact, most women don’t orgasm through intercourse...
Explore pleasure, confidence, and connection — one toy at a time.
From vibrating bunnies to prostate massagers, the world of sex toys is bigger, bolder, and more exciting than ever. Whether you’re shopping for yourself or looking to spice things up with a partner, now is the perfect time to get familiar with everything the toy chest has to offer.
Why Do People Use Sex Toys?
Sex toys aren’t just about novelty — they’re tools of pleasure, discovery, and even intimacy. People turn to sex toys to:
Explore new sensations (solo or with a partner)
Better understand their preferences
Achieve stronger, longer, more satisfying orgasms
Overcome challenges like low libido or erectile dysfunction
Whether you’re flying solo or sharing the experience, toys can enhance your sex life in ways you may never have imagined.
That visual intimacy? It can create a whole new level of connection.
And for those who don’t always climax through penetration alone — especially many women — sex toys like bullet vibrators...
If you're new to sex toys, the world can seem a bit overwhelming with all the options available. But don't worry, the key to getting started is understanding your needs and selecting products that are easy, safe, and enjoyable. Here's a helpful guide to help you navigate the exciting world of sex toys as a beginner.
1. Start Simple: Choose Beginner-Friendly Toys
As a first-timer, it's best to start with something simple. You don’t need anything too complicated or advanced at first. A small, non-intimidating vibrator or dildo is often the perfect starting point. You’ll want something that is easy to handle and not too powerful, allowing you to explore at your own pace.
Recommendations:
Vibrators: Start with a small, smooth, and simple vibrator. They come in various shapes and sizes, so pick one that feels comfortable and easy to use.
Dildos: Non-intimidating and simple dildos, especially those with a smooth design and small size, are excellent for beginners. They can help you understand...
Threesomes are one of the most popular sexual fantasies, and when everything aligns just right—with clear communication and mutual excitement—they can become an unforgettable, sizzling experience.
A threesome can be enjoyed by three people of any gender or sexual orientation, as long as everyone is on the same page and there’s shared attraction and enthusiasm.
What Is a Threesome?
A threesome, also called a three-way or ménage à trois (though in French, that often refers to three people cohabiting), involves three people engaging in sexual activity together. There are no strict rules on gender combinations or sexual acts—it all depends on the desires, boundaries, and comfort levels of the participants.
Terms like MMF (male-male-female) and FMF (female-male-female) often pop up in dating apps or personal ads, but remember: gender labels only matter if they're meaningful to those involved.
Why Do People Crave Threesomes?
Let’s get one thing straight—threesomes should never be a "gift" to...
You’re away on business, you don’t know a soul in this town, you’re holed up in your hotel room, alone and lonely (read: horny) and because you are a not a cheating scumbag and this isn’t Up in the Air, you pick up the phone to call your honey at home in the hopes of a little cellular nookie, a.k.a. phone sex.
But it goes something like this: “I just called, to say, I.. um.. uh, I was thinking that we could, you know.. oh, never mind. How’s the weather where you are?”
There’s nothing like phone sex to make you feel like a gawky teen all over again. Regular sex, you’ve got down cold: pour two glasses of wine, play smooth soundtrack, get naked, get busy, orgasms all around, rinse, repeat. But fiber-optic relations? The person on the other end of the line could be fully-clothed and watching “Top Chef” on mute for all you know. They could be faking, or smirking at your clumsy attempts at dirty talk. If you wanted some more experience with dirty talk, it might be helpful to learn from 35p Cheap...
Did you know the Serenity Prayer can apply to your sex life? (“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”) Here are five unchangeable aspects of sex — embracing them can save you and your partner unnecessary frustration.
The clitoral head’s position. It’s located farther from the vaginal opening, which explains why many women don’t orgasm through intercourse alone. This is due to a lack of adequate stimulation. While there are ways to enhance focus on this area (such as rethinking traditional perceptions of intercourse), remember that sex offers a variety of enjoyable avenues beyond penetration.
Your genital anatomy. Not everyone enjoys G-spot stimulation, and not everyone’s anatomy aligns with common beauty standards or porn ideals. Whether it’s longer inner labia, average-sized genitalia, or sensitivity to certain types of touch, everyone’s body is unique. Embrace your natural features and...
Dealing with late-life virginity can be a challenging and emotional experience, but it’s important to approach it with patience and self-compassion. Whether it’s addressing underlying issues with a therapist, considering celibacy, or slowly navigating the world of dating, there are ways to move forward at your own pace. In this article, we explore practical steps, from seeking professional help to embracing new social strategies, to help you work through any concerns and find peace with your sexual journey.
Seek therapy: If you don’t do anything else, prioritize therapy. It’s important to address any personal issues with the help of a professional. Therapy can’t be replaced by online forums, and if your insurance covers it, take advantage of that. If not, explore other options to get the support you deserve. Additionally, self-help books can be beneficial, but the real work comes from committing to personal growth.
Consider a no-strings approach: If you’re feeling pressured to have sex...
The Passing of Time, Changing Generations, and Evolving Vocabulary: How to Understand Gen Z Without a Dictionary (And Avoid Looking Like a Boomer)
What is Gen Z?
Let’s start from the beginning—what exactly is Gen Z? Generation Z (Gen Z), also known as iGen or Zoomers, refers to the generation of people born roughly between the mid-1990s and the early 2010s. This generation is the first to grow up fully immersed in technology, the internet, and social media from a very young age.
Have you ever been walking down the street and overheard a conversation between friends from Gen Z? It happened to me once, and I must admit, I looked around to make sure I was still on Piraeus Street and not in Brooklyn. “We were fine,” said the girl next to me at the traffic light, speaking with great intensity to her conversation partner, “it was probably just a simple love bombing.” Love bombing, ghosting, orbiting, and who knows how many more terms we’ve missed.
There are so many foreign words now to describe...
